Updated: Aug 19
What’s your romantic story of when you met your husband or wife? Yours, like mine felt at the time, like the romance of the century! A good-looking porter carried my bags to the lift, when I was on holiday in Surfers Paradise Queensland, some 37 years ago. As the lift doors closed, his pearly white smile contained in a dark face and curly haired halo, literally swept me off my feet. All these years later, this weekend we are just about to celebrate our 36th wedding anniversary. There’s been a lot of water under that bridge—of kids, finances, sickness and other things that life brings. So why does it have to be so hard?
I think God, in his blueprint for marriage contained in Ephesians 5 of the Bible, wanted us to look for Him in troubled times that are often found in relationships, particularly in marriage. So that’s where I went when I was in difficulty. What do you do? Complain to your spouse? Talk to your girlfriends? Bottle things up and go into the shed? Go for a drink with mates and talk about the footy? These might help to some degree but at the end of the day we have to work things out together. As a couple. But that’s a bitter pill to take if there’s communication challenges, as there often is. Perhaps we need to lighten up a bit but we also need to listen to the Words given to us by God, particularly when he talks about loving and respecting our wives and husbands. Seems simple doesn’t it? Then why isn’t it? Because we were made differently, what we need is different.
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