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What Was God Doing? Can Male & Female Brains Communicate?

Updated: Aug 10, 2021

We just have to accept this! Men and women think differently and brain science research now verifies this. But what was God thinking? Maybe it was God’s plan to help us grow in the institution called marriage. :-( One of the hardest things I’ve ever done is stay married. But I’m so glad my husband and I got through and have survived to tell the story.

Men and women make assumptions about what the other is thinking. We both think, they think like us! But I’ve got news to tell you, that’s a false assumption. When men and women get together, as women, we expect our men will read our minds and know what we want (like women do). Girls, I’ve got information for you. They don’t. They can’t. The main difference it seems is that men, when communicating and processing, do it all internally; they hibernate and try to work it out. Women do it externally, in other words, by talking. However, there are always exceptions to the rule here.

It all comes back to the needs of both men and women. Men need to know they are adequate, good enough – it is their area of insecurity. On the other hand, women need to know they are lovable, the woman’s soft spot. So if a woman or a wife tells her husband what he’s doing wrong, this pushes his insecure button and he can go off – whatever his off is: out to the shed, a raised voice or the silent treatment. For the girls, when an important male in her life doesn’t respond positively to her about her new dress or to buy that special gift or take her on that special date, this tells her she’s not lovable. Her buttons are pushed and she sulks or yells or tries to tell him what to do. He feels inadequate and a vicious cycle has begun.

What on earth is the answer to male and female's different thinking processes?