The Bible talks about how women are to treat their Bananamen and what men should do too.
So again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.
Ephesians 5:33 NLT
It's there in black and white, the love and respect issues. However I do hear you shouting“but they should be doing such and such .....first!” I know, your Bananaman needs to do some stuff, like loving you Peachygirl as you need and deserve. However, the trouble is most Bananamen don’t get this. (It took me 20 years to get that my Bananaman didn’t get it!) So while you and I wait, we may as well start tidying up Fruitloopland from our end!
You know as well as I do that Peachygirls are good at noticing stuff, be it weeds, dry ground, or whatever else requires tending in Fruitloopland. We do have to help the Bananaman get it, but nagging won't cut it, so give it a miss. I’m talking with you Peachygirlfriend, not him, so you are the one who can start things rolling.
So, let’s get into what Bananamen need to grow and be healthy fruit. Your Bananaman spells LOVE as R.E.S.P.E.C.T. Strange but true!
This acronym will help you and I to remember what we can do to meet his needs first, in order for things to start changing. These pointers below could just affect things in Fruitloopland, so regard them as your backpack survival kit.
Let's begin then:
R—for respect. Bananamen need to be admired and honoured so never ever (ever, ever, ever) show him up. Instead focus and tell him what he’s doing (or trying to do) well. (Scratch, scratch it might take a while to consider this if things are bad, but find something because he needs it and it will definitely and eventually change how he responds to you if you keep it up.)
E—for exterior. Bananaman might look on the outside brave and courageous, able to catch fruit bats in a single bound and anything that tries to hurt his little Lemonfruitloops, but the reality is that inside he’s actually insecure. Any nagging or telling him where he’s messed up, messes him up because he believes it. So be his greatest advocate—be his safe haven —he'll adore you for this.
S—for … Yep, you’ve worked it out. Bananamen like sex. Peachygirls do too but we need some preliminaries—anything more than 30 seconds. However, it doesn’t do to ever deprive him* because that’s how he gets the nurturing hormones (banana-oxytocin) to thrive and connect. You might have to teach him a thing or two or a thousand. Don’t give up. He likes fixing things and as you are getting fixed in this important area, his Bananaman pride goes way up. Why? Because he's winning a war, and all Bananamen like to be the warrior in their world.
For the rest of the acronym RESPECT and more of your Fruitloopland survival backpack, watch this space.
Love Peta XO
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*I am not talking about abuse here. There is no place for abuse in marriage, or anywhere else, so if this raises issues, please get some support from a reliable source. https://www.whiteribbon.org.au/find-help/domestic-violence-hotlines